In our last post, we highlighted a few underrated aspects of being pregnant. Yes, we are well aware of the many difficulties and arduous pains that go hand-in-hand with expecting. You get tired, bloated, uncomfortable, and you can’t sleep. That’s for starters, without scratching the surface of the emotional and mental challenges that every expectant mother goes through. “Do I have what it takes to be a good mother?” “What if my baby hates me and won’t nurse?” These are a few fairly common doubts to have about yourself.
But today is not a day to get bogged down in the difficulties. Rather, we are going to speak of the wonderful aspects of having a child. Your life will never be the same after your first little guy or gal enters the world, that much is certain. Keep reading if you are in the mood for a pick-me-up in reference to envisioning your new life as a parent. If you’ve been feeling a bit insecure or down lately, it just might be the tonic you need.
Before we get ahead of ourselves, we at Deanna D. Midwifery in the Tri-cities want our readers to get inspired. Maybe you aren’t the cheesy quote type of person, but maybe you can lay down your better judgment for the time being and get into some sappy quotes about the joys of having kids. Do your best!
Three things remain with us from paradise: stars, flowers and children. (Dante Alighieri)
I think that I see something deeper, more infinite, more eternal than the ocean in the expression of the eyes of a little baby when it wakes in the morning and coos or laughs because it sees the sun shining on its cradle. (Vincent Van Gogh)
The joy of motherhood comes in moments. There will be hard times and frustrating times. But amid the challenges, there are shining moments of joy and satisfaction.(Elder M. Russell Ballard)
Loving a baby is a circular business, a kind of feedback loop. The more you give, the more you get and the more you get, the more you feel like giving. (Penelope Leach)
We aren’t going to pick apart each one of these, we just wanted to pass on a few of our favorite that we’ve found over the years.
There’s Joy In Giving
Alright, we lied. We are going to talk about Penelope Leach’s quotation, briefly. In a lot of ways, having a child and being a parent is akin to the rest of life. If you are expecting constant satisfaction and pleasure, you are in for a rough ride. There are moments that make it worthwhile, though. And the longer you are at it, it’s quite possible that the more you will realize the more you give of yourself the happier you will be. When your little one can learn by your example, all the better.
You Get To Help The Little One Learn
Not only do you get to help educate your baby-turned-toddler about the world, but you get to watch them connect the dots in a multitude of ways, from learning how to dance and play an instrument to understanding language. The esteemed neuroscientist Lise Eliot put it well. “Imagine that you bought a PC, but instead of loading any software, you plugged it in and the computer did the rest: it assembled its own operating system, and built its own drivers for the CD-ROM, the sound system, the printer, the modem, and whatever other hardware it happened to be equipped with. Children’s brains are like this, accessing neural circuits as they’re needed, wiring them up and honing them to the task at hand—to walk, talk, read, forage for tubers, play the piano, and so on.”
Well said Lise! And the best part of that process is that there isn’t any set schedule for anything to happen. Kids develop at different rates in addition to developing different abilities and interests. Being a witness to the weekly or even daily progress that your little tike makes at an early age is truly a privilege to behold.
You Focus On What Matters
When it is just you, or maybe even you and your partner, it’s easy to not always want what’s best. That might sound strange on the surface, but in our day-to-day life, how often do we choose the best for ourselves with regards to food choices, exercise, relationships, and how we think about ourselves? We would bet we are leaving plenty on the table in several of those aforementioned departments. However, when you have a kid, it’s as though a flip switches inside of you. You only want what’s best for your little guy or gal – now and always. The thought of them being mistreated by a teacher or friend might make your blood boil. When you have a child, the very way you think about the world and what’s important might change. You realize that you are mortal and won’t always be here, and that can have a profound impact on relationships and even daily choices. It’s amazing to think that you might turn into a better person from having a fresh dose of perspective.
Contact Deanna D. Midwifery
Although we specialize in antenatal care, we are a prenatal clinic and alternative birthing center that cherishes the opportunity to work with expectant mothers. If you are in need of a certified, local midwife or WHNP services in the Tri-cities area, please do not hesitate to reach out to us. We would love to be a part of your experience!