Serving Richland, Kennewick, Pasco, and beyond, Deanna D. Midwifery has a passion for providing affordable and exceptional pregnancy care. Our lead midwife Deanna D. is both a Certified Midwife and a Women’s Health Nurse Practitioner. With nearly ten years of experience in pregnancy care and other midwife services, you can rest assured that when you have Deanna D. and her team on your side, you have a group of experienced professionals who have a passion for comprehensive women’s health care.
As part of commitment to provide exceptional midwifery services (a term which includes more than merely pregnancy care), we have a passion for educating our clients with the tools to succeed down the road. This means that we will provide you with helpful tips and other items to consider if you are in the midst of early pregnancy care, are just about to deliver, or find yourself squarely in the midst of after-delivery care. We will also be happy to provide you with an experienced pediatrician, should you be looking for a recommendation. In today’s post we will outline several common mistakes that new mothers tend to make. Keep in mind that this is a zero-judgment space, and is meant to be an exclusively helpful resource. Continue reading if you think you could use a few tips of the trade, but just know that even the best of us have felt useless and at the end of the rope when it comes to mothering newborns and postnatal care!
Setting a routine might be one of the most important tips we could provide to a new mother. If you were under the impression that your life could be scheduled on the fly, you are unfortunately in for a rude awakening. In fact, you will be woken up, many, many times by your child, but you probably already knew that. The baby will not simply fit into your current routine; you will need to mold your life around she or he. Now, we aren’t recommending a strict regimen of a feeding every four hours on the hour, but the routine that you establish will typically help your young one’s temperament and happiness, which is the most important thing.
Some young mothers are obsessed with being the perfect mother. Don’t get us wrong, this is perfectly understandable. Unfortunately this can translate to a mother not knowing when she has reached her limits. Worse yet, it could get to the point where a new mother has something to prove to someone, perhaps herself, that she is capable and independent. You have already proven those things in that you have brought a new life into the world. Being able to accept help from family members, friends, or even your own certified midwife will all help you. Remember that others have been down this road before, so why not learn some lessons the easy way by taking advice from those you trust.
Expecting A Social Life
HA HA! Sorry sweetie, this one isn’t happening, at least not for a couple few years, anyway. Your life now revolves around your child, whether you have accepted this fact or not. Being a mother to a newborn is beyond a full time job, where you can clock out or turn your phone to “do not disturb”. You are always on call. And don’t get us wrong, this isn’t to say that you won’t ever see one of your friends again, but that just isn’t as much of a priority anymore. Try to accept this fact, and realize that your little one is cute enough to make all of your sacrifices worth it.
Trying To Lose Too Much Weight Too Soon
You might be inclined to try to bounce back to your beach bod in a week, just like your favorite Instagram mommy you are following, but those moms have personal trainers, nutritionists, and quite honestly might be pushing themselves too much to look skinny again. Remember that just because you have stopped bleeding, that doesn’t mean that it is a healthy idea to run a 5K or go to your favorite class. Let’s ease into things a bit here. If you experience pain during intercourse, lower back pain, or other pelvic floor dysfunction, first, keep in mind that what you are experiencing is quite common. Second, feel free to consult your Women’s Health Nurse Practitioner or Certified Midwife to talk through and examine some of these issues related to post pregnancy care.
While on the surface this might seem a bit contradictory to our warning to not expect a social life once you have a baby, in reality this is one of the most important things that mothers tend to neglect. While it is true that you can’t clock out from being a mother, that doesn’t mean that you have turned into a machine overnight. While you probably aren’t going to be able to read in the park for hours (not that anyone does that, but the option is important) or meet your girlfriends for brunch every week, try to take a few minutes out of each day for yourself. When the baby goes down, don’t just stare at your phone until they wake up. That is, unless that is your passion in life, which is definitely understandable.
The Jones’ Baby
Don’t compare babies. Your baby is your baby, and no other mother’s. While this issue isn’t usually about who’s baby is cuter (every mom believes their child is the cutest baby that has ever been born, and they are all right), it might be more about milestones. For example, if you haven’t bonded with your baby as fast as your sister did, that might make you feel like you are doing something wrong. This couldn’t be further from the truth, in all likelihood. This is where having a midwife to walk you through difficult experience might be exactly what you need.
This tip/mistake is a bit more specific, but we thought we would include it, because it is something that we see quite often. As soon as you see the that first tooth emerge, be sure to brush the entire mouth as if they had a full set of teeth. This accomplishes two things. First, it will set a pattern of behavior your baby can follow into childhood, and second, it will keep your baby’s gums as healthy as possible.
Trying To Be Perfect
We are hard on ourselves because we care. That is a good thing in theory, but too often it means that we hold ourselves to too high of a standard. No one is perfect. Mistakes will be made. What is important is that we learn from those mistakes and are better off for it in the long run. You need to trust your motherly instincts, and if you need a little extra help, consider Deanna D. Midwifery if you are in the Tri-Cities region.
We hope that you have enjoyed today’s post regarding a few of the more common mistakes that mothers can tend to make. Once again, we hope that this has been a helpful resource from which you can take what you wish. At the end of the day, the most important tip we could provide is to simply be yourself and trust your natural maternal instincts. Remember that Deanna D. Midwifery is there for all of your pregnancy care needs. If you are looking for an antenatal clinic or other midwife services, we are your Tri-Cities midwife clinic of choice. Schedule your appointment today!