In our previous post, part one of this two part series on the best ways a partner can take care of their pregnant wife, we focused mainly on psychological traps that dads and other birthing partners can easily fall into if they’re not careful. Finding the right balance between self-care while recognizing this experience really isn’t about the partner as much as it is the mother can be difficult to manage. We recommend taking a look at it if you are in need of a mental framework for this novel and potentially daunting experience you are now a vital cog in.
Today’s post, part two, will be more practical in intent. Labor support, general preparation for the birthing process, and other tips will be discussed. If you are interested in getting some tangible help, then read on!
We spent a good chunk of time in our previous post discussing elements of the male psyche, specifically in reference to how to handle feelings of helplessness and lack of control while watching the mother suffer during pregnancy (yes, suffering will occur, on some level). But the truth is, that feeling of needing to fix but not being able to is pervasive and perhaps universal, irrespective of gender. Birthing partners don’t have to be the biological father, even if the father is involved in other ways. There is no singular right way to do this. That being said, for the birthing partners who may not fit into a stereotypical category, that’s okay! The most important aspect of this topic is the nature of the relationship between the partner and the mother. If that is solid, often times the specifics become less important.
How To Help
Of course, there are helpful tips from which practically any pregnancy could glean something useful. Start with some basics. Be there for your partner’s prenatal care appointment with her certified midwife or physician. Get some recommendations on books that people who you trust have found to be helpful. You could also ask your WHNP for some suggestions on that front, too.
In the same way that providing positive distractions during the previous nine months have been helpful, being a necessary distraction when the contractions hit can be invaluable to your partner in her time of need. Sarah Kilpatrick, M.D. PhD., a professor of gynecology and obstetrics at the University of Illinois, notes, “If your partner has an epidural, there may be less need for physical support during the beginning stages of labor. Instead, you should be ready to keep her occupied with music, conversation, and card games.” That’s not so bad! You love this person, and you should be able to handle that.
Take Some Pics
Another tip, which should be discussed prior to you unexpectedly whipping out the camera as soon as mommy starts to dilate, is to capture these memories. More often than not, people think it’s a good idea so that they can enjoy the crazy, blurry experience from a different vantage point. Our two cents; save them on your camera roll for later filtering. It’s not really Snapchat or Instagram story material, in general.
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We hope you’ve found these quick-hitting tips to be as useful as promised. Like we’ve mentioned before, there is not any one way to do pregnancy and labor right. But there are thousands of years of midwifery wisdom available to you at a “prenatal clinic near me”, as you may have searched to find this blog. Whatever the case may be, the fact remains that there are few options better than Deanna D. Midwifery if you are looking for late or early pregnancy care. Get in touch with us today if you are interested in having an experienced, certified midwife and WHNP who will invest in your life and situation. Reach out to us to schedule your consultation.